Books & Resources for Partners, Friends and Family


    This is a list of resources that partners, family or friends may find helpful. This should not be considered a list of recommended books. Click on the books to read online reviews and descriptions to decide if a book is suitable for you.

    Books for Partners, Friends and Family about Post-Traumatic  Stress Disorder including Combat PTSD, Trauma, Abuse, BPD, Attachment and Dissociative Disorders including recovery from rape, child sexual abuse and addiction with PTSD: Self-help books, Free downloads and Memoirs Jump to:

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    Posttraumatic Stress Disorder & Depression

    Finding My Way A Teen's Guide to Living with a Parent Who Has Experienced Trauma
    by  and (2005).
    ISBN 1592981178

    A similar book, I'm Not Alone: A Teen's Guide to Living with a Parent with Mental Illness is also on the authors' website.
    Helping Your Troubled Teen
    by  and (2007).
    ISBN 1592332625
    Covers addiction, sexual promiscuity, self-harm and eating disorders, all of which are common in traumatized children. Author Blaise Aguirre has also written a book about helping teens with Borderline Personality Disorder.
    My Daddy Has PTSD: An Illustrated Story Book to Help Children Understand PTSD
    by (2015).
    ISBN 1634498054
    Written by a veteran.
    When Someone You Love Suffers from Posttraumatic Stress: What to Expect and What You Can Do
    by and (2011).
    ISBN 1609180658
    Written by psychotherapists, includes chapters about PTSD from Sexual Abuse, and PTSD from military service.
    Shock Waves: A Practical Guide to Living with a Loved One's PTSD
    by  (2010).
    ISBN 1592858562
    Written by the wife of a Vietnam vet, but not specific to PTSD from military service.
    She Won't Feel Like This Forever: A Book for Children with Mothers Suffering PTSD.
    by (2015).
    Published by the The Australian Birth Trauma and PTSD Treatment Centre, relevant to all kinds of PTSD.

    Parenting traumatized children

    The Child Survivor: Healing Developmental Trauma and Dissociation
    by (2013).
    ISBN 1136821171
    Aimed at professionals but very few books exist for supportive families of children with dissociative coping styles, e.g., DID/DDNOS.
    The Dissociative Child: Diagnosis, Treatment, and Management
    by (1998).
    ISBN 1886968063
    Aimed at professionals but very few books exist for supportive families of children with dissociative coping styles, e.g., DID/DDNOS.
    Does My Child Have PTSD?: What to Do When Your Child Is Hurting from the Inside Out
    Does My Child Have PTSD?: What to Do When Your Child Is Hurting from the Inside Out
    by (2015).
    ISBN 1942934017
    Written by a parent.
    Supporting Traumatized Children and Teenagers: A Guide to Providing Understanding and Help
    by (2010).
    ISBN 1849050341 / 9781849050340
    Particularly relevant to professionals working with or caring for traumatized children, including school counselors and foster carers.

    For Families or Partners of Veterans (Combat PTSD)

    After the War Zone: A Practical Guide for Returning Troops and Their Families
    by and (2008).
    ISBN 1600940544

    Jointly written by Matthew J. Friedman, who is a former Executive Director of the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs
    Wounded Warrior, Wounded Home: Hope and Healing for Families Living with PTSD and TBI
    by (2013).
    ISBN 080072156X

    Mild Traumatic Brain Injury (mTBI) and Posttraumatic Stress Disorder are a common combination in military veterans with head injuries; some symptoms overlap including impaired memory, concentration problems and mood changes.

    DID, DDNOS and Borderline Personality Disorder

    Note: Books for Dissociative Identity Disorder also cover PTSD, Abuse and the after-effects.
    Amongst Ourselves: A Self-Help Guide to Living with Dissociative Identity Disorder
    by and (1998).
    ISBN 1572241225

    Jointly written by a woman with Dissociative Identity Disorder and her partner, who is also a therapist. The book is not specifically aimed at partners but includes regular thoughts and perspectives from partners.
    My Mom is Different
    by (1994).
    ISBN 0962916439

    Written by a parent with Dissociative Identity Disorder.
    Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change
    by (2010).
    ISBN 0195379586
    Aims to help partners, parents and older children of someone with BPD to understand the disorder, and learn better ways of responding to BPD behaviors, including validation and acceptance. Based on skills from Dialectical Behavior Therapy, this book is aimed at improving family relationships (not attempting to control a person with BPD).
    Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
    by and (2010).
    ISBN 1572246901 / 157224108X
    Part of the well-known Eggshells series.

    Abuse, Sexual Abuse/Rape & Intimate Partner Violence

    Free Resources

    Memoirs by partners or families

    Memoirs are about people and their experiences - not 'disorders'. Some do not focus on symptoms/disorders at all, and many people's difficulties don't fit neatly into the classification system. Most people who have trauma-related disorders also develop additional diagnoses or problems as result. Virtually all trauma memoirs contain distressing details, and may cause anxiety or fears that your loved one may deteriorate, may not survive — or the opposite: that he or she may not be improving "quickly enough" compared to the person you are reading about.

    The effects of past trauma or a dissociative disorder vary greatly between different people. Some people with Dissociative Identity Disorder, for example, are never admitted to hospital, and a minority of people with PTSD recover quickly or without professional help — yet others committed to healing make slower progress, have fluctuating levels of symptoms or regular crises. Not all these memoirs are stories of hope and recovery - a few end in death.

    PTSD, Combat PTSD, and Depression

    • Tears of a Warrior: A Family's Story of Combat and Living with PTSD by and (2010). ISBN 0615213170 ISBN-13: 978-0615213170. Includes information on coping with PTSD.
    • When the War Never Ends: The Voices of Military Members with PTSD and Their Families by (2011). ISBN 1442212071) ISBN-13 978-1442212077. A mix of contributors from many countries, with many different outcomes.
    • In an Instant: A Family's Journey of Love and Healing by and (2008). ISBN 0812978250 ISBN-13: 978-0812978254. Bob Woodruff was a TV news reporter, reporting from Iraq when he was injured. He and his wife write about the impact of Bob's Traumatic Brain Injury, and PTSD, on their family life. A NY times best seller.
    • Thirty Days with My Father: Finding Peace from Wartime PTSD by (2012). ISBN 0757316468 ISBN-13 978-0757316463. Reconciling after inter-generational trauma.

    Dissociative Disorders and Borderline Personality Disorder

    • The Magic Castle: A Mother's Harrowing True Story Of Her Adoptive Son's Multiple Personalities-- And The Triumph Of Healing by (1998). ISBN 031217196X ISBN-13 978-0312171964.
    • Suzi: A Life of Suffering and Triumphs by (2016). ISBN 1940354439 ISBN-13 978-1940354439. David Shuster's wife Suzi had many successes in her life despite struggles with many health conditions, including Dissociative Identity Disorder, Bulimia, Personality Disorders, Endometriosis and organ problems.
    • Cutting the Soul: A journey into the mental illness of a teenager through the eyes of his mother by , and Matthew Larsen (cover design) (2014). ISBN 1502933101 ISBN-13 978-1502933102. Matthew's struggles with self-harm and memories of abuse. He is later diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and a Dissociative Disorder.
    • Remnants of a Life on Paper: A Mother and Daughter's Struggle with Borderline Personality Disorder by , , and (2013). ISBN 0985571810 ISBN-13 9780985571818. An unexpected ending.
    • The Siren's Dance: My Marriage to a Borderline: A Case Study Paperback by (2008). ISBN 1419698184 ISBN-13 978-1419698187. A whirlwind marriage - and divorce. Medical student Anthony Walker crosses boundaries by dating a (former) patient, who he met after she had attempted suicide.

    Parenting Traumatized Children

    • Detached: Surviving Reactive Attachment Disorder by (2011). ISBN 0615522793 ISBN-13 9780615522791. Adopting a young boy born to an uncaring and alcoholic mother.
    • No Matter What: An Adoptive Family's Story of Hope, Love and Healing by (2013). ISBN 1849054312 ISBN-13 9781849054317. Parenting two young and traumatized children with resulting attachment difficulties. Based on real events.
    • Girl Alone: Joss came home from school to discover her father's death. Angry and hurting, she's out of control. by (2015). ISBN 0008145156 ISBN-13 978-0008145156. Written by an experienced foster parent.

    Abuse including Sexual Abuse/Rape

    • Working with Available Light: A Family's World After Violence by (1999). ISBN 0393046907 ISBN-13: 978-0393046908. A husband writes about the aftemath of his wife's rape and physical assault.
    • Loss of Innocence: A Daughter's Addiction. A Father's Fight to Save Her by and (2010). ISBN 0753513021 ISBN-13 978-0753513026. Father and daughter write about Carren's trauma and subsequence addiction, and Ron's attempts to help her.
    • Under My Roof: A Mother's Story of the Heinous Crime of Incest by (2013). ISBN 0985604832 ISBN-13 978-0985604837.

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